Wednesday, October 9, 2013

Andrea Cooper Speaks out


I've created me a new rant banner. The first to use it is Andrea Cooper. Although, she's not really ranting. She assessing the situation very well, in my opinion.

Andrea, take it away!




Are Romance Novels Porn?


Liza, Thank you for having me on your blog today.
Recently, I discovered a pastor told his congregation not to buy romance novels because they were emotional porn for women.
What?
Ok. That’s like saying chocolate lovers are drug addicts.
Porn has little plot or depth and is usually 90%* about sex. (*Note: I’m being conservative in my use of % here). I will discuss mainstream romance novels in this article, since I don’t write erotica, at this time, I believe that discussion is best left to the authors of the genre.
If romance novels are porn, then this pastor and everyone who agrees with him, need to rip out Song of Solomon out of their bibles. These scriptures are not only passionate – but by ancient standards, would be considered erotica.
Two versus from Song of Solomon I pulled at random:
4:5 Thy two breasts are like two young roes that are twins, which feed among the lilies. (KJV)
4:11 Thy lips, O my spouse, drop as the honeycomb: honey and milk are under thy tongue, and the small of thy garments is like the smell of Lebanon. (KJV)
We might snicker at the prose here, but during the time these chapters were written would be equivalent to today’s erotica. At the very least, it’s heavily romantic.
Some say romance novels give an unrealistic impression of relationships like porn.
I disagree. Before I met my husband now, I went through a bad marriage. I became jaded about anything romance. I believed songs and books exaggerated love.
I was wrong.
I realized love is even grander than the love songs and romance books can put into words.
Further, this is what I learned from romance books:
·         How a guy (notice I didn’t say all guys) acts when he’s falling in love.
·         What falling in love feels like.
·         How people treat the one they love.
·         What qualities in a spouse I admire.
·         How love is mysterious and fascinating and truly can make us ‘fall’ even when avoiding it.
·         That love can bring hope.
I, for one, am happy to write romance novels and bring happiness, hope, and love into people’s lives.


Liza: Thanks for sharing, Andrea. You hit the nail on the head. If a person never experiences a real act of love, how will they realize their empty relationship is not true love? We all need a gold standard for love, and that's where romance novels come in.


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Andrea’s Bio: Growing up in Houston, Texas, Andrea has always created characters and stories. But it wasn't until she was in her late twenties that she started writing novels.
What happened that ignited the writing flame in her fingers? Divorced, and disillusioned by love songs and stories. They exaggerate. She thought. Love and Romance are not like that in the real world. Then she met her husband and realized, yes love and romance are exactly like the songs and stories say. She is now a happy wife, and a mom to three kids (two boys and a girl).
Andrea writes paranormal and historical romance. When not writing or reading, one may find Andrea dancing in Zumba.
She believes in the power of change and counting each moment as a blessing. But most importantly, she believes in love.


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12 comments:

  1. Liza,
    Thank you for having me here today. Yes, we need the gold standard of love!

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  2. Romance is important... by reading it, we learn to find it in our lives. :) I can't live without and if my poor hubby was subjected to keeping me happy all the time without my love of books... we'd be broke! He wouldn't be able to work. I'd be accosting people on the street to ask about their relationships. Thank God for romance! It makes the world go round!

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    1. Melissa,
      Exactly ;) Thanks for stopping by.

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  3. Romance is not porn, and if a pastor says it is, he needs his head examined. SO there!

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    1. D'Ann,
      I agree with you. Sadly, there are a lot of people who agree with him. Even if there is no 'sex' in the romance novel. Romance is everywhere even in non-romance movies, books, etc. Without love and romance, where would we be? Thank you for your comment.

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  4. Will examining space filled with hot air really reveal anything other than the pastor is full of hot air? I suspect he hates romances because his WIFE reads them and has suggested he treats her better.

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  5. You probably have something there, Liza. Great post, Andrea. We need romance novels to show us how love can manifest itself when what we have in our lives is sadly lacking. Romance novels give us hope that there is a better guy out there who will treat us differently and the way we deserve to be treated. And romance novels simply make us feel good. Perhaps that would be the greatest sin in that preacher's eyes.

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    1. Jenna,
      I agree. Thank you for your comment. :)

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    2. You are absolutely right. If my character Carrie had read romances she wouldn't have settled for Trent. I'm going to send her a box right now!

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  6. I felt the same way about songs and stories while in a bad relationship. I scoffed at people holding hands and didn't even realize how lonely I was. But the songs and stories are real and inspiring. I've discovered that with my husband. Everyone deserves to find the person who treats them like a treasure and inspires them to reciprocate. Great post.

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    1. Dee,
      I'm so glad you discovered love with your husband, just as I did with my second. Thank you for stopping by.

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